When it comes to your love life, you might be thinking: how important is my zodiac sign? And what’s a sun sign, while we’re at it? And how do I know which will be a good match for me? If you’ve found yourself looking up compatibility scores of you and your potential partner or future soul mate, take a leaf from Bea’s book and read about her personal experience with star signs and romantic relationships. Don’t forget that zodiac compatibility is open to interpretation, so take everything you read with a grain of salt!
Are Zodiac Signs Even Real?
I hate being told what to do. If someone tells me what to do and I don’t want to, I simply won’t do it. I hate being guilt tripped for not performing the way people want me to. Unless you’re my boss of course, because I’m not getting fired. But if any of my friends demand anything of me I don’t want to do, there’s no way in hell I’m doing. And why? Because I’m an aquarius of course. I’m just saying this because although I say I don’t believe in star signs, I do reference them a lot.
And, before we get started, let’s get this straight: I’m no professional astrologer. I’d struggle to tell you exactly what your birth chart means when it talks about your rising signs, your moon signs and your venus signs. But what I can tell you is what I know, and what I’ve experienced with my dates and my own zodiac sign.
Of course if you look up the unique traits of the star signs they’ll probably have like 20 traits to choose from and of course some will relate to you and some won’t. Also, not every source will tell you the exact same thing. So, surely it can’t be reliable at all. But, even if it’s not scientifically true, it doesn’t mean it isn’t fun.
I had my birth chart (natal chart) read. (This goes more in-depth than just your astrological sign. It finds out your sun sign, your rising sign and a bunch of other stuff based on your time of birth). It’s all fun and games knowing how I supposedly am with my friends, how I am in relationships, my work ethics and everything else under the sun. But there’s one thing that comes up again and again. It’s the warning that I should steer clear of tauruses. And even more, how I should never date one.
Zodiac Signs in Dating
So yeah. Tauruses. One of the Earth Signs. They’re always at the top of the list of ‘least compatible’. Just above scorpios as well, but as far as I know I’ve never dated a scorpio (a water sign). Or at least, not that I’m aware of. But tauruses? I’ve had a couple of those. I would say we dated, but it never even got to that. The tauruses I’ve dated but not dated. Well, according to them, no, we never dated. According to me, I wish we had. Although with retrospect, I’m glad we didn’t.
It seems all the tauruses I date end with the same story of “I liked them more than they liked me”. Which honestly doesn’t happen very often because my commitment issues don’t allow me to get that far with a love interest. But, I’ll let you in on something. In my last article I almost wrote about a running joke I have with my favourite taurus. “I like my coffee like I like my men. Incapable of loving me back.” Isa, our favourite editor (who thank God isn’t a taurus), said it was savage. I find it hilarious, but probably because in part it is very true. So, maybe it’s not tauruses, maybe yet again, my commitment issues strike, and it is just chance that it’s tauruses who never like me back.
Anyway, I’m still good friends with my tauruses so I really can’t complain. Big love to my tauruses.
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Which Star Sign is Your Perfect Match?
It is funny though, because my most and least compatible were born in May (or April or June but let’s not talk about that). My least compatible, as you know from my taurus rant before, are tauruses. Tauruses are born between April 20th and May 20th. That’s the most of May. And then gemini’s are from the 21st May until the 20th of June. So yeah, May babies could either make or break me. Because my most compatible are geminis. And yes they are a great match for me. My favourite people I’ve dated and the ones I’ve regretted losing the most have been geminis.
Geminis are the ones who’ve treated me with the most respect, the most love, and who I’ve felt have understood me on another level. So surely there’s some truth in star signs and their compatibility. How is it that all geminis I’ve dated have been so good to me?
Okay so enough about me and my dating life. Although, I love talking about it. Let’s get into how to actually date based on your star sign.
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How to Date Based on Astrological Compatibility
I’ve been reading up on star signs and dating so you don’t have to. Firstly, it’s not about what your sun signs are, but it’s all about ‘modes’. So, these ‘modes’ are all about where in the year your sign lands. The modes are split into three groups, ‘cardinal’, ‘fixed’ and ‘mutable’.
Cardinal includes Aries, Cancer, Libra and Capricorn as they all start a season. Aries is the beginning of Spring, Cancer is the beginning of summer and so on. These signs like having big visions and big plans.
Fixed includes the middle of the season such as Taurus, Leo, Scorpio and Aquarius. Due to their location in the middle of the season they are more likely to be consistent, stubborn, and resilient. Which might sound like they’d work together, but due to this they butt heads a lot.
Mutable, as you probably could have guessed, are the signs that fall at the end of the season. Including Gemini, Virgo, Sagittarius, and Pisces. During their seasons, the weather starts to shift, meaning they are adaptable. Though not completely easy-going per se, they do tend to be more able to take things in their stride better than the other signs.
So, depending on what you’re looking for in a partner, it’s good to know which category their star sign falls into. But, remember, this is a simple version of dating based on star sign compatibility. Also, it’s very western. A lot of countries don’t have four seasons.
So, say you don’t have four seasons… what can you rely on now? Well, you can always go old school and look at the different elements. Let me do a little summary for you.
(Just so you know, I got a lot of my info from Astrologer Carolyne Faulkner here)
Earth signs — Taurus, Virgo and Capricorn
Earth signs they look to be grounded, or in other words they look for stability. I feel like it makes sense. Maybe that’s why they’re earth signs. It also makes sense that they tend to look for security in relationships. This also means they take relationships incredibly seriously. Don’t mess around with an earth sign because they will let you let you know how unhappy they are. They also know exactly what they’re looking for so once you lose an earth sign, it’s not likely you’ll get them back. But when they’re in, they’re in. Treat your earth signs right and you’ll probably keep them around for a long time.
Fire signs — Aries, Leo and Sagittarius
Fire signs love in an incredibly intense way. Their love knows no limits. They’ll jump head first into anything that might excite them in any way. So for a fire sign, love is something incredibly passionate and all-consuming. To be dating a fire sign is, unsurprisingly, also incredibly intense. They make you feel breathless and not being able to imagine what life would have been like without them. Their lack of analysing whether the thing they’re jumping right into is right or wrong does go away with time though. Their passions will calm down but their love and devotion will remain and some of that fire will stay as long as you keep it alight.
Water signs — Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces
Water signs have high standards and it can be hard to meet them. They have certain expectations which need to be met in their relationships and aren’t always good at voicing what they want them to be or how they want to see them being met. But they do expect their partner to automatically know them. They believe committed relationships will bring them stability. But any disagreements will lead them to hold big grudges which might be hard for them to get over. Although they may be somewhat temperamental and have high expectations, their love is deep and genuine.
Air signs — Gemini, Libra, and Aquarius
Air signs are big fans of the classic friends to lovers narrative. They believe in falling in love with someone’s mind before falling for them romantically. A love for an air sign doesn’t come instantly but when it does come it lasts. They also don’t invest everything they have into this relationship. They allow themselves and their partners to have their own lives, letting them grow on their own, and just supporting one another on the way. They don’t believe in demanding too much of their partners and allow their love to grow naturally. This may sometimes be interpreted as coldness and some people may feel the need to press on their buttons and get them to give more attention and affection. But this won’t end well, air signs need a feeling of respect for their intentions and ways of loving others.
Last Advice on Date Using Your Star Sign
Anyway, the best way to check your compatibility is simply to see if your signs are compatible online. Just google it. And if you know their exact birth time, date, and location then just check your birth charts to see if you’re compatible. My friends and I checked our compatibility on the Co-Star app. I’ve never been so lucky to know anyone I’ve dated’s exact birth time, date, and location. So, if you’ve ever found out someone you’ve dated’s birth time, date and location then I’m very proud. That’s something I, too, wish to learn one day.